Lessons learned in the first two months. And some thoughts.
1. A true smile is prettier than any outfit, hair style or makeup I can put on.
2. Learn to have fun with crazy schedules. Sometimes you can't help it!
3. LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN and LISTEN
4. keep doing "chessy" love things.
5. Not every bit of housework is going to get done.
6. Go to bed at the same time- No matter what! (I know this may change as we have kids but for now it is great!)
7. Keep God right smack in the middle and on the sides and everywhere else. :D
8. Go Ahead Brag about your husband- maybe if more people did they would be thankful for their marriages.
I was in the newsroom the other day and a coworker and I were talking about our husbands. We met up in the restroom by chance and she was asking me how married life was going. As we started talking she was saying that she got so tired of hearing woman COMPLAIN about their marriages and husbands. "AMEN SISTA" I felt like shouting. I know I'm a newbie but I agreed with her. She had been married for a while but out conversation just confirmed what so often happens. She was saying how she hears her sister in law complain of her marriage so often and how the negative attitude of that particular lady is like a poison. She was smart this coworker of mine. I told her how refreshing it is to have someone to brag about my husband with because sometimes I feel like I over do it. But I am just happy. I am in love. I think he is strong and handsome and smart and creative and athletic. He paints my toe nails and benches incredible amounts of weight. I think that is sexy and amazing!
-And yes those toes are mine. It's the first time he has painted toe nails. I was so proud of Him, I think he did pretty great.
- An Easter Card. MY Honey Bunny
Here is something my coworker sent me today :)
MARRIAGE IS ABOUT SHARING LOVE, NOT FINDING FAULT
DEAR ABBY: It saddens me when I hear women complain that men don’t do their fair share around the home. When a woman says, "He didn’t put the toilet seat down," I want to ask, "Did you put it back up for him?" When a woman says, "He didn’t pick up his dishes," I want to ask, "Did you clean up the oil spot your car left in the garage?" When a woman says, "He left his clothes on the floor," I want to ask, "Did you dump the unpaid bills on his desk?" I believe marriage is a personal relationship between two loving people, not an opportunity to complain to others about perceived abuses.
During the 40 years my husband and I have been married, we both worked and managed to raise three productive members of society. We have a tacit agreement. Each of us does absolutely everything possible to keep the home running smoothly, never tallying and setting up balance sheets. Out of love, each of us does whatever improves our common good, and both of us find reason for daily surprises as we receive in kind from the other. — JO IN PHOENIX
